What do YOU THINK? I know there are many of you out there who have "not shared."
From 'Ask Amy' --
Dear Amy: I'm about to be engaged to a wonderful woman. I have known her for three years. I have been wondering whether I should tell her that I had lap band surgery seven years ago when I was 45. The surgery allowed me to lose 100 pounds. I had a subsequent tummy tuck that I lied to my lady about (to explain the scar from the surgery).
My problem with food was volume eating; the band only allows me to eat small portions of food that need to be chewed well, and no fluids can be taken until after meals.
I have never told anyone else, including my family, about this.
My lady is 5 foot 10 and at a good weight, but it took her some time to get used to my eating habits — which include eating less than she does.
But I'm worried. What if some medical issue comes up down the road, and she as my wife finds out about my secret? What will I do if she finds out I lied about my surgeries?
You won't have to worry about your secret, because you are going to tell your lady the truth now — and then you won't have a secret.
Your situation is akin to an alcoholic who doesn't want to disclose this vital piece of information to a partner.