Not only is today a day after a holiday, but it's a Monday! This translates into an early-start to the "OMG! I NEED A DIET" posts on social media. You're overwhelmed with what you might have taken in yesterday and and time between then and Thanksgiving and you are deep in The Guilt. "THE FOOD, IT'S IN ME!"
Reminder: It's just food. Food is not bad. Food is not evil. Even cupcakes.
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Food cannot be bad.
Food is a required part of life, and your part of life is to learn how to manage your own relationship WITH FOOD so that you don't see FOOD AS EVIL. Calories may not all be created equal, you can make better calorie or food choices, but food, cannot physically be BAD.
Even if you ate more than two days worth of calories yesterday -- LET IT GO -- it's just food. The statuses that you will see online today and for the next few weeks:
- "OMG HOW MANY CALORIES ARE IN HALF A CANDY CANE? I'm SUCH A COW."
- "I am a pig, I ate _____________."
- "I need to work off that ___________."
- "Starting today, I'm back on my diet."
Self-loathing is not pretty. Self loathing is an extreme self-hatred of oneself or your own actions. "I can't believe I did/ate that, I'm such a loser." For post weight loss surgery patients -- learning to live in a new body and successfully live as normally as possible -- it only makes us stand out more if we create food drama! Just stop it.
Didn't you have weight loss surgery to be "normal?" As morbidly-obese individuals we stood out plenty, and life after weight loss surgery, we can reach a normal body weight and just BE.
You don't have to hate on yourself. You don't have to deny yourself every pleasure of food, either. You don't have to comment on other people's food choices or their size. It's their cannoli, just shut up.
Part of the holidays is (for many people, including your family and friends...) celebrating with/around food. You're going to have to get used to that -- if you want to be part of their "normal."
Celebrating with food or around it not be what you want anymore, but for much of the population it is what they want. If you do not want to partake, you have a choice to find something else to do or make your own good choices. But, it is not our duty as weight loss surgery post op individuals -- to become the food police for everyone.
(Note: Do not do this to your family and friends. They are not you, and they do not necessarily require your special diet or care. I have learned that food policing does not work and often backfires It's up to each person what they are willing to do to take care of their own health.)
It's just food. You make your own choices. And never, ever... apologize for FOOD.